After a greatly temperamental month, (February 2016 Mars was riding my sign) where many of my relationships were affected by the evil and loooong hand of anger, I find the NEED to sit back and ponder… Otherwise I am afraid the Universe will send me more. Have to be a good girl and student to the Law of Attraction and get into the shoes I teach with ease and honour… Phew
Anyway. After crossing swords with a fellow mother and friend about our daughters conflict, I realised that not all people are ok to learn the truth about their angels, because their angels are part of their own psychic apparatus, and not separate human beings. So if you say something they haven’t anticipated about their child then they feel it as a mortal blow to their perfect self?They need to show that their self is under control and perfect otherwise feelings of inadequacy come to the surface and overwhelm them. “I am not a good mother”. This feeling of inadequacy and of being judged probably wanted to surface in her and SNAP she was unreasonable to me. Just because I told her what happened to my daughter from her daughter. As I would expect her to do with me.
Now that is what my analytic training does.
It goes first and filters everything.
There’s another reading into this. But let me go on with my facts.
One more story…My daughter was upset because her lovely teacher was angry at her for being late last week. The truth is she can be late-with my help and blessing- many times in the morning as things do come up, we both wake up really early and I always have a choice. To be angry and tell her off for being late and start the day with a bit of poison in her lungs, or let it go and see what happens. In my experience, there’s not any difference in the outcome. If she wants to be late she will be late, because it is more important to her that day to day dream rather than be ready for school (she doesn’t know the art I perfected at school called “day dreaming in class”, as she generally loves her school) (maybe I could teach her that and so she can day dream at school!) To paint the whole picture for you, I have been told off too about her lateness so it was an ongoing thing. I was faced with two choices. Keep my mouth shut or say something about it. I chose the latter. I strongly believe if we have a choice and we face it, it is better to fill our day from its early start with passion , enthusiasm, love and joy rather than poisoning it with anything that isn’t in alignment to those feelings.
Those two experiences helped me see that relationships START being really true when we or the other person shows or exhibits their “shadow”. Because this now is the real me, and my friend and my daughter’s teacher have their flaws too, and they demonstrated them to me. That is their real self. Now we have more choices. IF THE FLAW OF THE OTHER PERSON IS UNBEARABLE TO US, THEN THE RELATIONSHIP WILL END.IF OUR FLAW IS UNBEARABLE TO THE OTHER THEN WE MIGHT BE DELETED FROM FRIENDS TOO, but reaching this point is a blessing. Because we generally tend to exhibit our flaws to those closest to us, as they are too freaking close you see! So reaching this uncomfortable and definitely not happy moment in your relationship remind yourself that NOW is the time to chose if it is a friend or foe. And if you continue on this relationship the bonus is clarity, truth and wisdom together with love. Same if you don’t.
So do you believe that relationships survive after a good quake of anger?
Share your stories and ponder on your beliefs.
Finish the sentence “Being me feels……Showing my true self with my Light and my Shadow feels…”
Buddha said there are no enemies nor friends.
And I couldn’t agree more. As there is definite learning here.
As for me I do not know how my friends feel, but I do know how I feel and I am overwhelmed by love for them as I write this, and awe for the blessing of this peculiar challenge in my life!
Thank you Universe